swapped a house for an apartment in lockdown...
Living 50m from Central Park in Upper West side Manhattan sounds incredibly glamorous but not if you've swapped a house for a pandemic apartment in lockdown....
Steve Myall, former deputy features editor of the Daily Mirror and co-host of the highly successful First Time Dads podcast joins James Millar and I as the circle of podcasting is complete.
True story - I first heard James on Steve's podcast, went and bought his book, Dads Don't Babysit, found him on Twitter, and tweeted about how much I liked the content.
We talk shared parental leave, finding space in a big city and why diplomatic status is this year's must have accessory for the Real Brit Dads of New York. Steve talks about what it is like on the ground in New York - elections, parenting and being that elusive species - the hands on stay at home dad.
Watch or listen to any of our episodes here: https://www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dads
Contents
01:30 switching a house for an apartment, not realising that we would be in it 24 hours a day.
02:30 Home school and Boris the Cat
05:00 God alone knows what we're going to do at the weekend.
06:00 We had a friend who took some shared parental leave, he was in his shorts, had grown a beard. He was relaxed. He was chilled. And the relationship with his second child looked fantastic.
07:30 Condensed hours and changing how you look at work.
08:00 Moving to New York.
09:30 The First Time Dads Podcast - because we felt that dad's weren't really talking about the emotional stuff.
I still get emails, I still get messages on Twitter, people coming to it, for the first time. I mean, we suffered a little bit because of the sound quality at the beginning, but you know, it was really well received. We were nominated for best podcast in the podcast awards. We had lots of people coming to us wanting to be on it because it had this particular reach to dads and we had no difficulties getting guests at all because it was something new.
13:30 There was talk of a virus in China and then suddenly New York's in this epicenter.
14:30 If you're on the seventh floor of an apartment you can't take them to playgrounds or shop.
16:45 We are fortunate, because my wife works for the UN, we've got a diplomatic status here so that we were able to come back to the UK.
Which a lot of the people that I've met, over here, British, haven't been able to do so. I'm on a WhatsApp group, which is called the “Real Brit Dads of New York”… their visas don't allow them to go backwards and forwards. So they had like 18 months, some of them, without seeing grandparents.
17:45 New York parks v Crystal Palace Park aka "have you got a big dinosaur with its face fallen off?"
19:35 Federal law allows you to have 12 weeks of unpaid parental leave as a dad.
22:00 Not only would it be unusual for me to see a dad taking their kids to this stuff, it would be unusual for me to see a parent because they're all nannies.
And, you know, if I talked to the guys that work on the door here, you know, they don't live in upper west side. If you live in New Jersey, it's a different thing. Or maybe Queens and the Bronx, it's, it's a slightly more community way of parenting, but certainly where we are, it feels like the kids are being looked after rather than being parented.
23:00 It's changed a lot since lockdown - you see a lot more dads doing drop-off and pick up because obviously they're working from home.
26:10 And then the adults all have a shrink, right?
28:00 We drove back into New York as the election result came over the radio and people were out in the street, opening bottles of champagne, cheering on the street corners.
29:00 If you go in Central Park, without wearing a mask outside, you will be shouted at.
30:00 Tips: Watch Soul, eat chocolate oranges and get in touch with mindfulness and the craft box.
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